Body for Life Forums Posts for Nov 26, 2005: 200 Messages

General Health & Fitness: General Fitness and Diet Discussion

Thread: Any Hope? (101 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Lala (598 posts) at 04:35 PM:
I'd have to say everyone's got it right! ...I PM'd ya , as well - you're looking GREAT! Take care Pamela*

General Health & Fitness: EAS & Other Supplements

Thread: When to take supplements? (342 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:18 PM:
Let me show my confusion.. if we're to increase our eating/calorie intake, to match what is suggested by the calorie counter on the BFL site, then why would we want an appetite suppressant? Please help me with my confusion again.

Body for Life Forum Message by emKse (47 posts) at 10:07 PM:
it is okay to mix betagen with just water right?

General Health & Fitness: (OT) Off-Topic Threads

Thread: Sex (1335 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Lindyloo (28 posts) at 12:15 AM:
Anyone going to share??????

Body for Life Forum Message by Forest Tech (39 posts) at 12:36 AM:
i just came.. here to see what all the fuss was about..

come on people make some fuss.. SEX SEX SEX!!!

Body for Life Forum Message by tigermuscle (195 posts) at 05:39 AM:
my tenth grade math teacher was right...mention the word "sex" in a crowded room and you get everyone's attention! LOL

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 12:09 PM:
Sex and BFL thoughts: Tuna is on the authorized list, and is a great source of protein. Shower sex can be a great uppper body work out. Depending on your endurance levels, sex can be a superior cardio workout. Ladies like to receive their 10s often. Slower movement on the up stroke, faster movement on the down stroke. Don't let gravity do the work for you. Reveiw your progress often will help you improve your technic, and acheive perfection. Cummin to message boards like this helps to keep you motivated. Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 12:18 PM:
BFL and Sex thoughts: Just one more thing. On free days go ahead and eat what you want and as much as you want. You deserve it. Marty

Thread: What kind of dog do you have? (410 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 12:55 PM:
We have a 1 year old Female Pit Bull. Named TAZ.... she is so sweet and unlike the evilness that people portray these kinds of dogs out to be.( ya know dumb people who use them for things other than companions) ignorance breeds hate..... thats my philosphy. ***** DONT LITTER, SPRAY/NEUTER*****

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 12:56 PM:
TRICIA aka DodgeGirl She has 2 newfoundlands, 1 Black Lab

Body for Life Forum Message by Vanniek71 (161 posts) at 01:07 PM:
I have 2 sheppard/Lab mixes. They are sisters, but one looks like a lab and the other a shorter haired sheppard. And I found someone giving away blue heeler pups here in the area so I might pop home with 2 more dogs here in the near future, and then get yelled at lol

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 01:52 PM:
Had a pure bred black lab growing up (the best dog in the world!) Her name was Tootsie. Now we have a mutt named Amber. She's a lab/red bone coon hound. She's sweet, lazy and loves to sleep by my desk all day while I work.

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 02:24 PM:
Grew up with boxers only until along came Steve & his Rottweiler Heidi. We just had to put Heidi down last week so we'll be going dogless for awhile. If I was to ever get another dog I'd definately want another boxer. The markings I prefer are like kmachate's Fez.

Body for Life Forum Message by Forest Tech (39 posts) at 02:35 PM:
I have a black lab, NS Duck Toller mix. She is my baby and the best dog in the WORLD.. in fact.. im gonna put a pic of her up in my "side photos"....................

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 02:43 PM:
Very cute forest tech...ok, I guess YOUR black lab can now hold the title of the best dog in the world since mine is in doggie heaven.

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 03:53 PM: Re: What kind of dog do you have?

>Rascal - Golden Retriever.

>Josie - Rescued part Shepherd, part something else loveable.
They both have big brown eyes, and empty bellies.  They gave up hiking when arthritis took over.  We used to hike about 8 miles at a whack.

Thread: Just For Kicks.... (1369 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 11:59 AM:
One look at her, and

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 12:37 PM:
it moved with pleasure so

Body for Life Forum Message by tonee (94 posts) at 02:14 PM:
she quickly bent down to

Body for Life Forum Message by ShineyHiney (292 posts) at 02:25 PM:
let him check out her

Body for Life Forum Message by Can'tStopMe (373 posts) at 03:01 PM:
He gasped for air when

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:05 PM:
her Shiney-Hiney became a full-monty!

Body for Life Forum Message by crone (259 posts) at 08:27 PM:
lo and behold came a

Body for Life Forum Message by RD (39 posts) at 08:33 PM:
He screamed and ran away.

Body for Life Forum Message by RD (39 posts) at 08:36 PM:
(sorry must have posted at same time)

Thread: The Dog Thread (537 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 02:43 PM:
GetNFit - I think DreamCather's is a good one for you! We need to add a few more; Michiganmike for instance.

Body for Life Forum Message by cougar (125 posts) at 07:02 PM:
what about me?????

Body for Life Forum Message by tcstone (527 posts) at 07:13 PM:
do me do me!

Thread: Who wants Raygeo to do a Myoplex Add? (702 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by GET*HER*DONE (2610 posts) at 05:51 PM:
awh poor baby,, ((((HUG))))) Me too, I got kicked off too Boo WHHOOOOO I want my name back up there, NOW,,!!! Please!! Pretty Please!! ( crying on Kevin's shoulder)

Body for Life Forum Message by ShineyHiney (292 posts) at 08:40 PM:
Linda, maybe you should do a myoplex box ad. Just a thought.

Thread: survivor fan?? (89 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 02:41 PM:
I've never ever gotten into this show. I guess that means I don't belong in this thread? Just let me toss in an opinion anyway. I think they should all be dumped there and left for a significant amount of time (18 mos or so). Then check back & see who did better; the cast of Lost or Survivor. Okay, I'm outta here then.

Thread: on the verge of an affair (787 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 04:58 AM:
I think I should just add in here - regarding my previous posts "guessing" with "is that you" - I was just joking!!!!! I think perhaps it was not in good taste. When you can't see someones facial expressions or hear the tone of their voice it might not come across the same way. I'm going to see if I can delete those posts. I apologize if anyone was offended in any way.

Body for Life Forum Message by JoMama (26 posts) at 07:49 AM:
The head/heart test is a useful tool for me in times of decision. I take a flat-palmed hand, palm down, and place the index finger against the opposite shoulder. Then, I use the hand as a "knife" to separate my head from my heart. I observe what my heart says. I observe what my head says. If there is disagreement between head and heart, I follow what my head tells me. Yes, I said, "I follow what my head tells me." Rational thought is so needed to cross-check emotions, feelings, hormones, and whatever else exists at that level. When we throw out rational thought, our dreams turn into ongoing nightmares. Professional counselors and others in the helping professions specialize in getting the rational thought processes out on the table. Romantic talk about "following your heart" is hogwash. We make decisions. We own our decisions. Our decisions become our lives.

Body for Life Forum Message by goingforbuff (1412 posts) at 09:50 AM:
Pseudo - My advice would be to not have an affair. The devastating effects of an affair changes lives forever, and most always for the worse. I would suggest talking to your husband, seeing a counselor yourself and/or with your husband. Give every effort possible to fixing what is missing in your marriage. If you exhaust all the avenues and still are unhappy and don't see any means of attaining that, then proceed with leaving him. But stay true to him until that time, if it ever comes. You will feel awful about yourself if you don't, not to mention the damage you will do to your husband and if you have kids, them, too. A good thing to do is reverse the situation in your head...how would you want your husband to handle this situation if he was you? How would you feel if he made the decision to have an affair? This might help you make the right decisions. I know this is hard for you. Good luck with everything. Nancy

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:24 AM:
Are you being honest with us? Are you being true to yourself? I believe if you say your husband is a wonderful man, you ought to stick with that. Maybe you ought to tell him that you are not attracted to him.... Perhaps that would get him off his arss.... At the very least you will find out where you stack up to him.... Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 01:13 PM:
The grass is always greenier on the other side of the fence, maybe because it requires more fertalizer. Its not worth it girl, not only will you be known by your friends and family as the "one who had an affair" Word spreads like crazy, and you will live your life with the stigma of your actions. Besides do you want to leave your husband for someone who just wants your T&A, I would at least want someone who loves me for who I am and not because I lost a few pounds. Gosh forbid I gain those pounds back..... MIKE: YOU ARE SO WISE, I really value your opinions, lets hope that this lady can do the same.

Body for Life Forum Message by tonee (94 posts) at 02:08 PM:
I've read everyones responses and tend to agree with them, but there are some questions I would like to raise.

How long have you been with your husband?

How overweight were you before you starting losing?

How did he treat you before you starting losing a few pounds? Did he turn away from you before the weight came off?

I think these are some other questions other than the ones already presented that you should ask yourself.

Always remember that your husband was there before you lost weight. TALK TO HIM he's not a mind reader he's a man.

IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?????? Think long and hard about all the advice you are receiving. Never give up without giving the situation your ALL......

Tonya

Body for Life Forum Message by leehigh (73 posts) at 02:34 PM:
I have to step in here because nobody else here has experienced or admitted that they have experienced these kind of feelings for their significant other. Well, when I read this post, I thought I had typed it! I am really disgusted with my husband right now. When I first started living healthy he started with me and had great results, better results than I got! I was jealous! Then he quit! He says he doesnt have time for it! Whatever! I know exactly how you feel, pseudo. I am right there with you. I look at him when he eats nothing but junk and it really makes me sick. He has gained everything back plus some and it is so unattractive. I would never cheat but when you arent attracted to whats at home you do tend to find others very attractive. Its only natural. I have sat here and read through all of these replies and I am still looking for answers. Someone said something about there being more to the story. In my case there is more to the story and I do sometimes think that I should live life to the fullest and not waste my time on negative people or things. Thats what I feel like I am doing most of the time. But I did take vows and plan to stick with them for now. If things change in the future, I dont know what will happen, but if you need someone to talk to that is on the same side as you, feel free to pm me. Maybe we can help eachother.

Body for Life Forum Message by Can'tStopMe (373 posts) at 03:12 PM:
LEEHIGH: I know I'VE had those feelings of disgust towards my spouse. Who hasn't!? To believe that you can spend the rest of your life with one person and find them attractive ALL the time is unrealistic. Sometimes I look at my husband and am completely repulsed and the repulsion might stay for MONTHS! THAT IS MARRIAGE (my marriage anyway)...plain and simple. If I left my marraige to find someone more attractive...I'd be in for a rude awakening to discover that other person will eventually become equally repulsive at times. I should add that my husband has an incredible body. Other factors of disgust can turn someone off. It's not just a body image. History is what a makes a marriage. You will always fall in and out of love w/your spouse and sometimes you may find you spend more time out. What one should realize is that this is what 90% of people feel in marriage. Your case isn't exceptional. Again...it how you choose to react that will make the difference in your future.

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 03:27 PM:
I have to comment again. I don't know. I have been married twice and had worse problems. At the end of my first marriage I was repulsed everytime he would touch me. BUT...it had nothing to do with the way he looked. It was the way he was abusive to me. He was not an attractive person to begin with but his actions is what made me unattracted to him. I was attracted to him, maybe not as much physical when we got married, but what I am saying is that how I feel about someone is how attracted to them I am. Maybe for you it's deeper than his physical appearance. My boyfriend now even if he gained more weight I would still feel the same about him I am sure. I am crazy about him and can't imagine that it would matter unless his attitude changed and he was lazy and not even trying. The fact that he does BFL and pushes me works for me.

Body for Life Forum Message by donna9214 (11 posts) at 04:17 PM:
Since I have lost my 60 pounds , alot of the guys at work have been making little comments, flirting, most of them are married, and one in particular has flat asked me, saying hes sooooooo attracted to me, and I'll be honest here..I was tempted.
I am not married married anymore but he is and I will not be a party to someone cheating on their spouse, period...and I did tell him this nicely.The guilt is just not worth it.
Now he goes between trying still (flirting) and totally ignoring me..which is fine.
These affairs almost never last long term because the guilt thats associated to it almost always (once the giddy omg he/she's so great feeling wears off) attaches itself to the person u are cheating with, and soon u will not even be able to look at them.
One more thing to consider..its great u are changing your body and getting fit, do you really wanna taint that great accomplishment with lying and cheating? It will hinder what should be a great thing into something ugly and your results will prolly suffer for it.
and could u really sleep with another man and look your husband in the face after? Think about it...I would do everything I could to make the marraige work and accept him AS HE IS, if hes gonna change it will happen when and if hes ready. Huggs and I hope it works out for you.

Body for Life Forum Message by leehigh (73 posts) at 04:56 PM:
Ok I guess I didnt make myself clear. I would NEVER EVER cheat on my husband. I just wanted pseudo to know that she is not alone on the temptations and I didnt want to bash her about her feelings. I think its normal to have many different feelings throughout a marriage. And again my problems are more than skin deep and maybe hers are too. But I am in the process of working on my marriage and just wanted to make sure she knew she wasnt alone. I am not telling her its ok to have an affair, I am just saying that she is not the only one going through this. Thats all!

Body for Life Forum Message by formerdoofus (42 posts) at 05:41 PM:
wow deep stuff....from a long-term married male perspective... if you don't have kids - dump him - separate and see if you are magnetically pulled back together if kids are involved - gut it out until they are fully grown - not worth the pain etc

Body for Life Forum Message by Adora (10 posts) at 06:15 PM:
This is deep and tuf! I am baffled here. This is exactly why I am petrified to ever get married I change s often and then am attracted to new people. I am not sure there is a perfect person. If there is how do you know things will stay that way. What are the benefits of a forever afterrelationship? Unless you have kids and even then I am still not sure.You are married now and there is a commitment in tact to consider. in that case self promises and commitment are on the line. Love, A

Thread: AussieWen's new ABS in the profiles! (168 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by mojo (23 posts) at 10:00 AM:
Proof that hard work and dedication pays off! She looks FANTASTIC!

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 10:14 AM:
Awesome Abs!!!! Way To Go Girl!!!!!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by Dana D (429 posts) at 10:20 AM:
OMG! You look FABULOUS AussieWen! Your abs are seriously kick-ass. Love um! ANd yes..Im jealous too :)

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 10:47 AM: Re: AussieWen's new ABS in the profiles!

Hubba Hubba

Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by Reagiesmom (251 posts) at 10:56 AM:
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOW. Great JOB!

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 11:45 AM:
BEAUTIFUL ABS....your ABS remind me of Maggie Diubaldo's.

Body for Life Forum Message by Aussiewen (51 posts) at 04:46 PM:
Oh thank you so much everyone! I've been really blessed to lose body fat in that region first before anything else. But anyone can achieve these results. You just have to keep going :) Thanks again Wen.

Body for Life Forum Message by Coloradokid1984 (157 posts) at 05:16 PM:
Great JOB! She has done a great job... ANd you can see the confidence in her smile!!!! Keep up the hard work! Casey

Thread: MichiganMike--This ones for Y-O-U! (171 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Dana D (429 posts) at 01:05 AM: MichiganMike--This ones for Y-O-U!
My PMS is KILLIN me right about now! Ugghh...How oh HOWWWWWWWW do I fight the cravings and the mood swings? Hahahahahahaha....

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 07:05 AM:
Don't fight them, give in to them!! Dr. Peeke says I can only possibly eat clean about 80% of the time, so BRING IT ON! Where's my chocolate? I need a massage too, and a heating pad, and some drugs. The cramps are killing me!! Oh and Mike, should I weigh myself and take pictures this week?

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 10:05 AM:
Sorry, but I'm only answering questions about breastfeeding this week. ell, what the heck, I'm here, let me tackle these other issues. For PMS, Dana, nothing seems to work better than murder! Just make sure you kill someone who has never had PMS--men come to mind here! And Wendy, I think you should take pictures of yourself weighing--every day--maybe 10 times a day! I'm out: Sincerely, Dr. Mike

Body for Life Forum Message by Dana D (429 posts) at 10:15 AM:
Dr. Mike.... I only had a MINOR setback when my cravings got too strong. Lets see: There was chocolate, a bag &1/2 of Doritos, a TINY slice of cheesecake, 2 MINI cookies, a LIL bit of chocolate cake, Taco Bell Nachos (but I skipped the sour cream on um)and some corn chips. But I drank DIET coke with it all, so Im sure Ill do OK. Im gunna take your advice about the pics too..as soon as I can get the heating pad off of me and the drugs kick in!

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:11 AM:
I choose life. Women with PMS equal danger.... I am stay out of this and running for my life....... Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 11:13 AM:
You're a smart man Marty.

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 02:37 PM:
This is funny. Perhaps he'd appreciate a thread started telling him all our battle stories in the field of labour & delivery. The more painful & gory the better.

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 02:41 PM:
I love that idea Flower. I don't think men were allowed in the delivery room back when Mike had his kids. Time for a little reality. LOL Oh by the way, Mike just LOVES it when people type LOL in their posts.

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 02:45 PM:
LOL - how's that?

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 02:51 PM:
I had twins...no C-section...and my epidural IV somehow became disconnected, and the medicine was leaking all over the floor behind the bed for awhile before anyone noticed. HELLO!?! (12 medical people in the room) A real party! By the time it was time for delivery, the medicine was wearing off big time, and it was too late to start it up again, or so they said! LOL NOT!

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 03:01 PM:
Dana, forgive yourself and move on. Because of the fact that you are a Dr. Peeke kind of woman, you'll be able to do this not only every free day but every PMS day too! Of course, you will be miserable, but at least you won't be anorexic! Wendy, I suggest a lawsuit. Sure, the statute of limitations has probably run, but since you are a woman, they should change that silly law--just for you! can't we all just get along?

From the Bunker,
Sincerely, Dr Mike

Thread: I shouldn't be a mother... having doubts! (161 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Udenia (2039 posts) at 03:08 PM: I shouldn't be a mother... having doubts!
I love my son, he is 3.....but he is so much of a hand full, I get NOTHING done but chase after him, he is all over the place, won't listen, won't talk.... Just got his hearing checked and "they" say it is fine.... He is stubborn and going 100 miles a second... Will not communicate with me, not potty trained, won't even look at the potty... Won't sit still at Daycare, picks any and all locks in any place and off he goes... You have to chase him down..., I am so tired and I find myself questioning myself on whether or not I should be a mother... I lose my temper so fast some days but others I take that breath...

I am at my wits end with this boy, don't know what to do.  Some say he is authistic? others ADHD,, I am just TIRED.... 

Sometimes I wonder what life would be like without him, then my life wouldn't be my life without him... Just having  hard time and really would like to be able to find someone for myself... Haven't dated in 4 years... My son as I say is my life, and it is stressed to the T right now... I am 2 years away from retiring from the US Navy, and I have bills to pay, college degree to obtain, a mother to take care of as well as my son... In 2 weeks he is going to a Child Psycologist? What is next? I don't know,,,

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 03:16 PM:
I will PM you. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Kerry (858 posts) at 04:39 PM:
Wow, prayers and best wishes coming your way. When I get overwhelmed, I try to break things down and prioritize them, and work on em the best I can. Kerry

Body for Life Forum Message by Coloradokid1984 (157 posts) at 05:21 PM:
Hang in there... I can relate to some of your issues.... Hang in there!!!!! Try to get your workouts in to help with the stress!!! Casey

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 06:04 PM:
Have him checked out with a speech therapist, my son was diagnosed with having APRAXIA, which is a problem to where the fine motor skills of a child has a "short circuit" with the brain, once Austin( my son) was diagnosed, and treated properly, he has done so well.... HE is 5 now but he did the same thing as you describe your son when he too was 3 years old. You are your sons first advocate, exercise all means, believe me I was extremely irritable with my son, cause it seemed we couldnt communicate and he was frustrated. Check it out.... I will be praying for you and your son...

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 06:14 PM:
Udenia, I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time!! Hopefully the Child Psycologist will be able to shed some light on the problem and offer some sort of solution!! I am sending prayers, love and best wishes your way!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 06:40 PM:
Udenia, we all question ourselves with our parenting skills, the choices we make, how well we're doing, how poorly we're doing; me being one of (all of) these extremes. I find myself labelling me as the worst mother, especially when they are misbehaving, showing problems, etc. I do tell myself that my 9 year old is not going to be acting like this at 21; my 4 year old will not be acting like this at 15. Yes, perhaps they'll be worse but its a gamble we all take. Do your best and hope for the best - thats all we can do. Yes, I know, no help whatsoever, but just to let you know, we've all been there - you are not alone and for 100% CERTAIN NO WAY CLOSE TO NOT BEING A GOOD MOTHER. Its usually the "best" mothers that question the job they're doing.

Body for Life Forum Message by RD (39 posts) at 07:33 PM:
You described my 14 yr old at that age. At least you are seeking help early on. My son was diagnosed with adhd when he was 12. Meds help him focus better in school but don't really help with attitude.He also has ODD (oppostitional defiance disorder)He hated anything that kept him restrained. I could not keep him in a highchair or playpen. He climbed out of his crib and tried to take it apart. He even hated pajamas with the footies on them. He could not stand to be restrained in any way. He loved sitting on laps in a rocking chair though but that was something in motion. He use to sit and bang his head against a door or wall until I would stop him. I also had my son's hearing checked because he wouldn't talk much or listen. Even his daycare teachers thought he had a hearing problem. I went through years of teachers and principals trying to tell me I was doing something wrong.I even asked them if they thought he had adhd and if I should get him checked. They said no he has an attitude problem. I always asked why my other 2 kids had no disciplinary problems or learning problems. When my kids were toddlers we used time-outs as behavior modification. Then when they got older I used grounding from things they like or grounding to the house. With him I used to have to put him in his bed, he would get up, I would put him back. We did that for an hour until we were both exhausted and he would finaly serve his few minutes of time-out. At times he was so out of control that I had to pin his arms down to the floor and try not to get bit. I was running a daycare in my home at the time and had several other babies and toddlers to care for. I won't kid you, he can still be a handfull at times. I have had many times when I wanted to give up or send him off to live with his dad (if we could find him.)Yes, I am a single mom too. I always sleep on it when I want to give up and always feel differently in the morning. He is maturing and I don't have as many of those days as I used to. If you stick with consistent, loving discipline it helps. We have had an in-home councelor and another that we see at the same office as our psychiatrist. He has progressed to the point where he is obeying me more than 75% of the time so the in-home councelor was stopped. I have kept in touch with school councelors as well and each year I try to talk to his teachers so that they know his issues and what to expect. I have found I get a lot further by joking and laughing with him than by demanding and giving ultimatums. I also found that if he knows in clear simple terms what the rules are and that there will be consequences, he is more likely to behave. He needs guidlines. Reasoning does not work as well because he has a hard time focusing on the conversation. I have a simple set of house rules that I have used since my children were babies. Some of them are: don't jump or bounce on or off of any furniture. No throwing any object in the house or at the house. Be nice to each other. No violent physical contact, etc. I wrote them down and wrote out what they are grounded from for 1st offense, 2nd offense, etc. If he does get put on meds, make sure he keeps taking them. I take my son off in the summer just to see if he still really needs it. I was taking weekends off but now I notice that by sunday night he is a maniac and can't calm down. When those meds wear off, he is 10 times worse than if he had not been taking them at all until it gets completely out of his system. As long as he takes them every day, he does pretty good. I have to look at the things I like about him and compliment him on those things. His self esteem was not so good after so much disciplinary action at school and he has even had teachers yelling at him. I try not to yell but I have my bad days. A calm voice is always better with any child. The fact that you care about the whole thing and bothered to post on here is proof that you are a good and caring mother. If you were a bad mother you would have left before this or would not care enough to ask. You are doing what you can by seeking help. A good book to read is "123 magic" I forget who the author is. Barnes and Noble should have it still. It was recommended to me after my son spent time in the childrens psych ward of a hospital after threatening to kill himself. We used to have some really scarey times with him threatening others or himself; things are so much better now than they were. I remind myself of that each time we have a bad day now. ( I remember times of him getting knives from the kitchen and threatening his brother, I had to hide the knives for a while.) Some day he will be glad that I never gave up and so will I. I already am. I posted this here rather than a pm because there may be others out there going through the same thing as we are. I still ask "why me" sometimes. He seems to sabotage any relationship with a guy unless he gets a LOT of attention from said guy. I haven't really dated anyone in years. I have friends who have tried to help give him a male role model but eventually got tired or busy with their own lives. We even tried Big Brothers/Big Sisters. That did help some when he was younger but he outgrew it. I definately recommend it for younger kids up to preteen. They screen the volunteers very carefully. Hang in there, keep your chin up and don't let ANYONE make you feel you are not a good parent. Just do the best you can and always always focus on the love in your heart for him. If you had a child with a different handicap such as blindness or maybe in a wheelchair, would you not stick with them and take care of them? A child with a mental disorder is also handicapped. They need love and support and so do you. All those parents with "good kids" have no clue what you go through on a daily basis. Don't let anyone bring you down. Just as long as you know in your heart you have done all you can for yourself and your son. If you ever need anything you can send me a pm or email me upbeatbirdie@yahoo.com. I check my email nearly every day. :^)

Thread: Need motivation and support right now... (86 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by NCmomof3 (125 posts) at 03:37 PM: Need motivation and support right now...
Over the past year I have attempted maybe 4 or 5 challenges and one thing or another keeps coming up... but yet again I try to start again.  This past winter started with kidney stones, then gall stones and removal of gallbladder in June, then a fall down my stairs which ended with torn tendons and ligaments in my ankle... now my "Irish Twin" sister has been diagnosed with Acute Lymphocytic Leukemia as of last Friday and she is really sick right now.  It hit very fast.  So, instead of dropping weight, I have put on about 15 pounds since last year.  Of course the health problems are to blame for most but since I found out about my sister I can't stop eating and my face is breaking out like a teenager.  I'm very worried about her and scared to think of what could happen.  I keep thinking I could use this as motivation to run a marathon - but I have to have dedication and motivation to train for such an event.  And running on an ankle that is still healing with 15 extra pounds isn't that easy. 

I want to do this for her and others - hopefully raise some money and show her how much she means to me and what I will do for her since there's really nothing else I can do at this point.  If she needs a bone marrow transplant of course I will be right there and I pray that I'm a match or one of our other 2 sisters are...  there are four of us so the likelihood is great that one of us is a match.  We should know next week if she needs one. 

Do anyone have any experience with marathon training?  I want to do this for her and hopefully I will drop the excess weight I have put on... oh - did I mention I'm a single mom of 3 (12, 5, 3) so timing and schedules are critical.  I usually workout on my lunch hour because I really have no other time to do so.

Thanks for letting me vent - I needed another good cry.  Any suggestions or advice would be great.

Thanks!
Susan

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 04:01 PM:
I ran the London Marathon this year, as motivation to get me started on a healthy eating and fitness plan. I've now lost close to 50lbs and feel a lot healthier and fitter than ever. I don't have kids, but I was finishing university and was under a lot of preasure to study and revise for my final exams, leaving me with very little time to train during the week, and two months before the marathon I totally burned myself out! Finally I went to a gym and sat down with a trainer, (I never had a personal trainer, but I did talk to one), and she told me the best thing to do was clear out 1 afternoon per week and dedicate it to training. That's all. Just one. Any other exercise during the week would be a bonus, but I didn't have to hit the gym. I started jogging home from work which is 5 miles, and at first I had to jog a mile, walk a mile. Then I found that not using the elevators at work, and jogging up them added to my stamina. I suggest you put the toddler in the stroller and jog around the park a few times each day, and try to use your legs more than your car. When I eventually ran the marathon, which was 26 miles, I couldn't run the whole way. I ran maybe 7 miles then walked 3, then ran 4 and walked 1. It was really stop/start, but I did complete it and it felt great. I'd also suggest you ckeck out the marathon you want to participate in, some cities have running groups who train several times per week, for people of all different fittness levels. Good luck to you, it's a very admirable thing you're doing and I think you're a very brave lady. Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by NCmomof3 (125 posts) at 04:07 PM:
Thank you Jules. That's probably what I'll have to do - run/walk. I just have so much going through my head right now and I know if I channel all this into something I want that will not only help me but others as well I can do it. I just need to get the ball rolling. I just need to chalk this year up to bad luck and push through it. I will see if my gym has someone who can help me get started! Thanks for your support!

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 04:19 PM:
You're most welcome! :) It might also be a good idea to get a group of people to do it with you. That way you'll have a support system around you! I forgot to say that I completed a mini fun run a few weeks before the marathon. It was only 12 miles, but it really did teach me a lot about pacing myself and breathing before I hit the big one. Try and find these kinds of events to participate in if you can, because they really do help. Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by Kerry (858 posts) at 04:37 PM:
Hi, Running is not my thing ( although I still try on Cardio days ) so can't offer advice there. Sorry to hear about your sister and other trials. You can be the best and the strongest you can be for your sister, yourself and others. I know you will do well. Yours in Health, kerry

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 05:11 PM:
Your health problems may be because you have been idle for a long time. You've been idle because you live for others, your schedule, and not yourself. Did you ever read the BFL book? Start there if you have not. I don't coddle I push.... Lace them up and stop making excuses. Your mind is the first thing you need to get in order, the rest will fold right into place. Oh did I mention, my knees were shot, my sister died of cancer last year, I have children in college, I have a 10 hour a day job, etc, etc etc etc.... Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 06:21 PM:
Stick with the program!!! It works!!! You Can Do It, I know you can!!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Thread: About my updated photo's (109 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 03:58 PM: About my updated photo's

It took about an
hour to get the first set of pictures deleted and replaced
with the new pictures. 
I tried to get something to match the pixel requirements for this site,
(for your viewing pleasure.) 
The good news for me is,
I can finally see results! 
If you're interested in my 8 wk progress,
feel free to peruse my profile. 

Have a nice day.

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 04:08 PM:
Darrell, You are doing a great job. Keep up the hard work, it's showing. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 04:21 PM:
Flamin' Nora! Your body's completely different! Love the way you're dead miserable in the first piccy but grinning away in the second! LOL Keep going Daz! Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by Kerry (858 posts) at 04:33 PM:
Great Progress Darrell, you must be excited:) Yours in Health, Kerry

Body for Life Forum Message by GET*HER*DONE (2610 posts) at 04:42 PM:
you are looking good, and you sure look happy about it!! About updating the pics, be sure you don't already have a pic for that week you have to pick the challenge and the week of the challenge that you want the pic in Linda

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 07:59 PM:
What i did was add some weeks, then delete the weeks I didn't want, since it wouldn't accept the replacement pics. It was a pain in the rumpus.

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 09:42 PM:
WOW!!! Darrell, You have made excellent progress!!! You're looking great!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by Larry (108 posts) at 10:05 PM: Re: About my updated photo's

Darrell,

Well done. Does the Fifty-ish Plus crowd around here proud.

With your improving physique & current haircut you'll end up looking like a mix between Porter Freeman and Ronald Lee Ermey (the Marine Staff Sgt. "Mail Call" dude.)

Porter: You gotta' want it -- SIR!

Ermey: I can't HEAR YOU!

Darrell: Just wait till week twelve -- SIR!

Yours in fitness,
Larry

Thread: I Hate Water!! (52 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Rkreider (74 posts) at 05:30 PM: I Hate Water!!
I can't seem to get the water I need in daily... I can't stand plan water. Is their anyone who mixes it with Crystal Light or something?? Rebecca.

Body for Life Forum Message by Kerry (858 posts) at 05:43 PM:
I usually mix it with a fruit flavoured protein powder. tastes great, 100 calories, 23 grams protein. Give it a try Yours in Health, Kerry

Body for Life Forum Message by Rkreider (74 posts) at 05:45 PM:
Which one do you use (brand) do you by at GNC??

Thread: Where does everyone live and WHY? (119 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 06:28 PM: Where does everyone live and WHY?
I am currently living with my Best Friend and her family (dodgeGirl) here in Olympia WA, for a short time, due to military reasons, then in March I am off to OKLAHOMA to meet up with my husband after he is done with his military assignment. Prior to coming here we lived in TEXAS for a year and Colorado for 8 Years...( WHICH WE LOVED, GO BRONCO's)GO ARMY!!!

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 06:36 PM:
I live in Oakville, Ont. which is a suburb of Toronto. I didn't grow up here but moved here when I was about 24 for the fun & opportunity of Toronto which at that time did present many opportunities and was wildly fun!!! Now that I'm 40 I ask MYSELF why I'm living in this highly expensive rat race. So for me "WHY" is a very good question.

Body for Life Forum Message by crone (259 posts) at 06:36 PM:
Born and raised in Cleveland, Ohio. I visited all over the world but there is no place like home.

Body for Life Forum Message by cougar (125 posts) at 07:00 PM:
hi , I live in Terrace British Columbia, CANADA . Way up north, no not with eskimos or anything, it is one of the most beautiful places i've ever been which isn't alot. Its a small place, 20,000 or so, so I now alot of people. My husband works at ALCAN in Kitimat, so we'll be here forever unless we win the lottery.....Love Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by mom2threegirls (22 posts) at 07:03 PM:
hi, i was born and raised in northern michigan. love it here and wouldn't dream of leaving.

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 07:15 PM:
I live about 20 minutes outside of KC, kansas. WHY??? because I was born here and just stayed for family. I will not leave until my kids are grown. I want to see them through school, then I wouldn't mind moving somewhere nicer. Kinda borring here. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by RD (39 posts) at 07:55 PM:
I live in Cedar Rapids, IA. I moved here in 1994. My daughter's dad, my fiance at the time happened to find he had a family of mutual friends with me and we went to visit them upon invite. We saw how clean the city was. Not a lot of crime at that time and lots of jobs in the paper. It seemed to be thriving and had a town atmosphere. People were friendly unlike in bigger cities. Since then things have changed. Our neighborhood has more crime now. Each year I get more and more tired of the cold winters. This is a little further north than central IL where I grew up. I long to move to a warmer climate but hate to pull my kids away from friends and school. My oldest will graduate hopefully in a couple years as long as his grades stay up. My other 2 said they wouldn't mind moving. There are things I like about it. I live close to a bike trail that goes on for miles and miles to the next city. There are lots of parks that are well kept and beautiful with walking trails. Noel Ridge park is my favorite. You run past lilac bushes and the tennis courts and a creek. There is a duck pond and farmers market visits 3x a week. There is a huge flower garden there in summer months and a public pool complete with water slides. We spend a lot of time at the park in the summer. It was even featured in Sports Illustrated this past year I was told. We also don't pay taxes on food items at the store and have a good hospital too that is a 10 min drive away from our house. My 14 yr old has had many trips to the emergency room for his various stunts and bumps and bangs at school and elsewhere. Ok, guess I had to convince myself why I am staying here through another winter.

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 07:57 PM:
After I retired from the USAF, I returned to Southern Indiana, and enjoyed hanging out with my dad fishing and stuff for about a year or so before he passed away. Now I'm stuck here because my wife can't leave our adult kids behind to move anywhere else.

Body for Life Forum Message by darby249 (165 posts) at 08:23 PM:
I am living in a small community in western Tennessee. I have lived in west TN all my life lots of other places I would like to try but just cant leave my family.

Body for Life Forum Message by anavywife (114 posts) at 08:32 PM: Re: Where does everyone live and WHY?

I live in the dumbest area known to the U.S. where they dont believe in street signs!!! This wonderful place is Goose Creek, SC a small city outside of Charleston. 

WHY am I here??   My husband is an officer in the Navy and we just got stationed here in June and will move again next June to Kings Bay, GA we hope.  We are originally from OKLAHOMA and intend to eventually end back up there someday.

Rd Nk girl, OKLAHOMA is where you will meet some the kindest people around!!  I hope you enjoy your stay:)

You dont realize how awesome home is until you leave:(

Crystal

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 08:44 PM:
We live in central Michigan, near Lansing, the capital. We've been here nearly 9 years, moving from Wichita Kansas. I came here to take a job, and I currently work for the State of Michigan as a magistrate. My appointment is up in late January and I am unlikely to be reappointed due to a difference in my political party and the people who could reappoint me. We just don't know where we'll go or what we'll do. Many possibilities but things are pretty bleak in Michigan for jobs, so it's likely we'll move, either back to Kansas, or to Las Vegas or Iowa where our children live. Maybe Virginia. We'll see soon enough.

Body for Life Forum Message by elaine_kime (5 posts) at 08:52 PM:

Body for Life Forum Message by elaine_kime (5 posts) at 08:57 PM:
my name is elaine im 33 yrs old(soon to be 34 dec 16th ) mom of twin boys 7mths old now , and a older son who is 11 and older girl who is 12 yrs old now ..i live in rouses point ny .. i moved here cause when i gotten div .i met my bf online from ny and he begged me to move to ny with him .(been here 3yrs)im originally from fla though before i met him..and was born in pa. .. i love fla and dont know why i gave into this lol .. i will never enjoy newyork .the snow winter sucks. and there not much city life here.plus my mom and family all is in fla:(always wana move back so i can help my mom she has osteoarthritis .and her bones are hurting bad:(but kids are small so that a nono right now .but someday i do plan to :)

Body for Life Forum Message by TaraC29 (25 posts) at 09:04 PM:
Central KY...because this is where our family is. Maybe someday we'll move out west (like my husband wants) or to FL (like I want) but we're happy here for now. It's a great place for the kids.

Body for Life Forum Message by Forest Tech (39 posts) at 09:50 PM:
Well my belongings are spread between 3 locations.. Miramichi (boyfriends place in northern New Brunswick), Fredericton (where i live in the residence at school), and my parents house in Lower Sackville NS (just outside of Halifax).

I live in all of those locations because first i went to school then i worked here in fredericton over hte summer and brought my stuff to my b/f's over the sumer to store, now im back here with some of it.. and the rest is still at home. when im done school.. we might get an apartmetn together in Miramichi. I love it there anyway...

Body for Life Forum Message by RdNk Grl ( JEANNIE ) (15 posts) at 11:13 PM:
WOW its really cool knowing where you all live and why you are there, I have other places under my belt also, Prior to my high school sweettart/husband, going ARMY, I was born in Beloit Kansas, Grew up in the very northern part of CALIFORNIA amongst the redwood trees, in a town called FORTUNA, which is south of EUREKA, then when hubby joined the service we then moved to CO where we were stationed at FT CARSON CO for 8 years, then onto FT BLISS texas for a year, so on so on like my first entry states for this topic. BUT YES I LOOK FORWARD SO MUCH TO GOING TO OKLAHOMA. keep up with letting me know where you are all from, its sounds interesting.

Thread: Cat out of the bag - oh my (147 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:07 PM: Cat out of the bag - oh my
What is your biggest secret you don't want anyone to know?

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 08:07 PM:
I'd have to change my screen name to post it. LOL Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:11 PM:
..hmm okay, sounds fine to me.. ha ha.. I dare ya!

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:23 PM:
okay 20 views and no secrets.
How about something else then. This I copied from the forums page: Currently Active Users (46): 7 members and 4 guests have logged in today. There are 23 members and 23 guests currently online. Only 11 people logged in, and only 46 active members... what a bummer, we need to grow!!

Body for Life Forum Message by ShineyHiney (292 posts) at 08:35 PM:
Now Darrell, think about your question. What is your biggest secret you don't want anyone to know. If we don't want anyone to know it, why would we put it on here. What is yours? I really don't think I have any to tell you the truth. I am as pure as the driven snow.

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:37 PM:
Oh yes, I really believe you. Uh huh. Yeppers. No secrets there. (really though you look pretty in your family picture.)

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 08:37 PM:
It's not really a secret, but it's something very few people know about me. I'm an evangelist. Not a preacher, but just a speaker, and I go seasonally to dinner meetings around Michigan and in the region, telling my Christian testimony to adult audiences, and giving an invitation to make a life-changing decision. Most people are so shocked to see a Christian lawyer/politician doing such a thing, but I enjoy it, though I only do it 2 or 3 times a year.

I guess the only "secret" I have, which I have actually told to many people but have never put on the BFL guestbook, is that I won the Labrada Nutrition Lean Body Challenge in Spring 2004 for the over 50 category. I'm quite proud of it, but I never mention it on the guestbook as it is definitely bad form to promote another company's products or contests on the guestbook provided by EAS, plus there's always some "purist" who thinks it's treasonous if you even use someone else's products--let alone win one of their contests.

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:43 PM:
Mike, I knew one of the secrets, but not the other. are you a lawyer? a politician? both? combo? Surely you're not with Dewey, Cheatham, and Howe? Tell us more of your career!
My big career since retiring is entertaining the elderly in an Adult Daycare. I tell jokes all day, play games, bingo, bean bag toss, horseshoes(plastic), ring toss, shuffle board, coloring, puzzles, basketball, knock over the cans/bottles.

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 08:47 PM:
ok, I'll play....I'm really a man. LOL Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:50 PM:
Lori, it's your tattoo that gave you away!! we knew it!! we knew it!!



LOL
Just kidding :p

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 08:59 PM:
Lori, your secret is safe with me! If you are a man, you have a photographer who truly can do some amazing things. You're certainly the prettiest guy in Olathe!

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 09:24 PM:
well you know I am a computer artist as well. I know photoshop very well. :) Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Forest Tech (39 posts) at 09:43 PM:
yea i have ta agree with the whole needing to change my user name inorder to say my secret(s)...

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 09:47 PM:
Maybe Darrell has some secrets he'd like to share. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Rushja (499 posts) at 09:49 PM:
My secret.... My side of the bed is always the left side. Not because I like to lay that way but because it is farthest from the door. The way I see it, if someone is going to break in and attack us my hubby will get it first leaving me time to run and get help, lol! Yes, he knows my wacky plan and thinks it is hilarious! Jess

Body for Life Forum Message by emKse (47 posts) at 09:52 PM:
i'm in love with my professor :0)

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 10:10 PM:
That's funny Rushja, cause mine is the opposite. However I rearrange my room is I always sleep closest to the door. I don't like an empty spot closest to the door cause it's like anyone could just get there. Realistically it's not going to happen but it's in my mind. If my boyfriend stayed it doesn't matter as long as that spot is taken. weird huh? Lori

Thread: EAS Soy Protein is Gross (21 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by ShineyHiney (292 posts) at 08:39 PM: EAS Soy Protein is Gross
I accidently bought EAS Chocolate Soy Protein Powder last night instead of Whey. This stuff is horrible, no matter how I eat it. Does anyone have any ideas to make it better. I am not kidding you it is GROSS, I think it is worst than Vanilla Protein powder.

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Thread: Diet Pop. (129 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by mojo (23 posts) at 09:48 AM:
I'm with Kevin. Can't live without it. Sad... but true. I know a particular 2005 BFL finalist that has a strong bond with her Diet Rite. :-)

Body for Life Forum Message by Dana D (429 posts) at 10:28 AM:
I used to drink it all the time, but rarely do now. Last week I switched up and started drinking one can of Diet Coke each day and I swear...it totally INCREASED my cravings for sweets and carbs.(Ive heard it has sumthin to do w/ the artifical sweeteners in it) Personally, its not worth it to me.

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 10:44 AM: Re: Diet Pop.

Once upon a time I was putting Coke with Rum....  Now water is the only drink I need to get me high........

Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by Reagiesmom (251 posts) at 10:52 AM:
Have to have it. LOTS of it!!!! OK, I know caffeine is a dieretic (sp?!?!?) but besides that, what's WRONG with DIET pop!!!??? I drink water, too and am not dehydrayed....

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 11:43 AM:
From Jerry Braam's website.... Soda on days besides a free day? I'm sure you already know that answer! As for DIET soda. That is a common question. The use of DIET on the label often confuses people. Just because it has lower calories doesn't mean that it is okay to ingest. Both Soda & Diet Soda have many factors that will severley stunt your best BFL results. Minus the obvious with reg soda...Things to consider with diet are sodium, caffeine, carbonation, etc... ~Sodium of course you are aware that sm. amounts of sodium dramatically increase water retention may you look and fell bloated=crappy. ~Caffeine has been researched for years! I read that it was fine in moderation. But also remember that it does have diuretic effects& may cause dehydration, so always drink a glass of water for every diet soda or cup-o-coffee. The positive that it may help increase energy for a training session. ~ Carbonated Now I have read that carbonated soft drinks are high in phosphorus. Phosphorus appears to compete with many nutrients, vitiamins and minerals. But mostly calcium for bone, thereby limiting its absorption; in other words, bone loss may be greater than bone maintenance and/or formation, so that net bone density/mass would be less than optimal. This is particularly negative for women's health because of osteoporosis ingredients. Best puposes for soda... ~To clean a toilet: Pour a can of Coke into the toilet. Let it sit for one hour, then flush clean. ~To remove rust spots from chrome car bumpers: Rub the bumper with a crumpled-up piece of Reynolds Wrap aluminum foil dipped in Coke. ~To clean corrosion from car battery terminals: Pour a can of Coke over the terminals to bubble away the corrosion. ~To loosen a rusted bolt: Applying a cloth soaked in Coke to the rusted bolt for several minutes. There is no better replacement for water than water. You need water to sustain your body's many vital chemical reactions and maintain correct body temperature. Water also rehydrates you because water is lost as perspiration (and expired air), and this can lead to dehydration if fluids are not replaced. Another plus -- drinking water before and during physical activity can enhance your athletic performance. If you have to ingest diet soda. Try to keep it to a minimum. Find healthy alternatives. I especially enjoy adding "DIET" Crystal Light (Peach Tea) to my water arsenal. What are your personal water tips!

Body for LIFE: Body for LIFE Exercise

Thread: How Often... (147 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 11:53 AM:
I train my abs every day. Alternating between Ab-Boot camp, and pilates. I've found Ab-Boot camp really stresses my muscles and makes me sweat, while a 40-60 minute session of pilates the next day helps relax me, and stretches out my body so I'm not too stiff to complete the next day's Ab-boot camp session.

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 12:43 PM:
I add an Ab piece to my cardio as well. The extra piece works for me. Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by michiganmike (105 posts) at 12:53 PM:
Once a week. Two sets each of hanging knee ups, to failure, usually between 20 and 25 reps, and crunches, on a swiss ball, and kickouts while balanced on the edge of a bench. My abs are worked hard as stabilizers whenever I do squats or deadliftsas well.

Body for Life Forum Message by Wrecky (40 posts) at 01:19 PM:
Holy thats amazing. I get the most HILARIOUS visual of me TRYING to do a hanging knee up...bahahahahah!

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Thread: essays (264 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 10:17 AM:
Beautiful essays!!!! Thanks for sharing!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:02 AM: Re: essays

The pride comes through in each of us.  It is clear...  This program makes life better for many.

If you are still sitting idle in life.  Get off you butt and get in the game.

Marty

Thread: The 2006 Tracker Calendar -- Want to Vote? (903 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by BFL Barbie (1 posts) at 11:59 AM:
I think this is the greatest idea. I will definitely be sending in my pictures. Not sure I want to see Mike in a thong though - hmmmmm Barbara Howard 2004 GNC/BFL 3 place finisher aka BFL Barbie

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 12:46 PM:
My wife would kill me if I ended up on a calendar.... Can't love that woman if I am dead.... Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by GET*HER*DONE (2610 posts) at 04:50 PM:
oh no really, My hubby was helping me pic out the best pics, he said he would be so proud of me if I was on the calendar Linda

Thread: Six Packs and Body Fat Percentage (274 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by ocpanther65 (3 posts) at 12:26 AM:
Men can have 3.5% bf and not have complications or go into shock. World class athletes in sports like swimming and track tend to be in this group. It is unhealthy to remain under 4.5% for a long time, so keep it for the summer then get a little padding for the winter. Oh and a little interesting fyi, did you know motorcross riders are the most conditioned and toned athletes in the world. I learned that in my muscle phys class.

Body for Life Forum Message by BoricuaDeMar (2 posts) at 08:31 AM:
Right! the abs are there, its the body fat that don't let you see them. I guess you all know this, but its a thing that in a gym everybody has a different opinion: people, the abs needs a period of rest between workouts just like any other muscle. If you want to see a sixpack, do more cardio and watch your nutrition better, lose fat.

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:42 AM:
Ok... That's it.... Might as well throw in the towel and grab a beer... Not!!!! Good bye fat hello ABs.... We have a winner.... Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 11:44 AM:
I didn't see my ABS until my bodyfat was under 15%.

Body for Life Forum Message by chuckdiesel99 (590 posts) at 08:36 PM:
This guy is at 3% and it cannot be sustained for any length of time because you can die.

Thread: No turning back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (160 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by goingforbuff (1412 posts) at 08:38 AM:
Rod - Sounds like a great challenge! I know you will do great! When I prepped for the 5k I did this past year, my training regimine was pretty much the same - weights 3x per week, HIIT 2x per week and distance training once a week. Definitely keep your incline up around 1.5-2.0 to help you prepare for the non-treadmill environment. Good luck to you!!! Can't wait to hear how you are progressing! Nancy

Body for Life Forum Message by ross (1 posts) at 09:31 AM:
Hey Rod, I have been doing two half marathons a year for the past few years; always sub two hours finishing. There are some great plans on Runnersworld.com. This summer what worked for me was running three days a week. One run fast, about three miles, one run of hills and intervals (30 mins), then one long run (upping the distance each week). I lifted three times a week doing a deadlift routine, only deadlifts and presses and NEVER going to failure. You do have to limit weightlifting somewhat to do well at these longer runs. I loved this routine and never felt stronger. Good Luck!

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 10:12 AM:
That's Awesome Rod!!! Way To Go!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:16 AM:
Rod, Get a BFL T-Shirt so we can all see the colors blow the doors off the other runners... Win the damn thing brother. Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 12:00 PM: Re: No turning back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You are going to do AWESOME Rod.

So EXCITED for you!

Body for Life Forum Message by twinmom (274 posts) at 02:53 PM:
Rod, That is awesome. That is what BFL is all about...complete one goal, them try another. You can do anything you want if you plan. You go, Rod! Annette

Thread: Localized fat.... (145 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 11:49 AM:
Thanks guys! Lipo is NEVER gonna be an option for me! LOL Yeah, I raced into this challenge determined to lose more weight, but listening to what you're saying, I might improve my results by concentrating on building more muscle mass instead. That might improve my chances of getting rid of those stubborn areas. Going to re-read the book tonight, and start including more protein before and after workouts. I'm probably just being impatient, but before I got to the size I am now I kinda just thought; "When I get to this size I'll have a really high, tight bum." Just goes to show that just because you get slimmer, you can still have the same body hang-ups you had when you were bigger. I'll conquer this if it's the last thing I do!!! Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 01:11 PM:
I have found that a lot of people throw up their hands and give up when they can not seem to see significant reductions in localized fat areas. What a shame. Most of them are just about there when they do throw their hands up. Believe it or not folks your body will get around to those areas as well. It just pushes the other fat areas out first. Even your face carries fat that needs to burn out before your body will release all the fat around you arss, abs, and hips... So when myself and so many people say stick to this program for life.... Please do it. I care therefore I post. Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 03:44 PM:
Don't worry Marty I won't be throwing in the towel, I'll just be more focused on building a lot of muscle to burn fat. This is the first program I've tried which includes weight training. For so long I have depended on cardio and pilates to take the weight off, (and it's shaved off an impressive 42lbs), but I realise now that I need to target specific muscle groups if I want to burn the fat surrounding/covering that area. Like I say, I'll be going to bed tonight with a cup of tea and my BFL book for a good re-read. Thanks again, Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 09:55 PM:
Jules, I agree with Marty, it is just a matter of time, but those stubborn areas will eventually come around! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Thread: Wonder woman t-shirts (53 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 06:24 PM:
I received mine in the mail today! I love it!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Thread: 3 Week Pictures (131 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by BoricuaDeMar (2 posts) at 08:35 AM:
Don't pay attention to weight, remember you are adding muscle weight. Look for fat %, that way you don't get discouraged. Go, go, go.

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 11:33 AM:
If I could get rid of weight scales I would. Mirrors, Photos, and the way you are approaching life are the true messures of success in the BFL system. Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 11:47 AM:
Keep going strong! Remember muscle weighs more than fat. You are doing a GREAT job!

Body for Life Forum Message by TaraC29 (25 posts) at 12:18 PM:
You look great! Just keep doin' what you are and the scale will move. Good Job!

Thread: OMG!! I hit (and PASSED) the 50 lb mark!!! (263 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Dana D (429 posts) at 12:59 AM: OMG!! I hit (and PASSED) the 50 lb mark!!!
Im sooo excited that I HAD to share this with y'all! As of today.. I am OFFICIALLY 51 POUNDS lighter than I was on JULY 4th!! Even though Im completely pumped and excited, ...It almost seems unbeleivable to me, like my mind just DOESNT accept it yet. Does that make any sense? Even if my mind doesnt wanna accept it yet...Im STILL gunna do the HAPPY dance and shake my ba-donk-a-donk!! woooooo-hoooooooooooo!!!

Body for Life Forum Message by cougar (125 posts) at 01:08 AM:
great job, I can't wait, 20 more to go lots of love lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Flower (1925 posts) at 05:02 AM:
Wow Dana! Amazing!!!!!!! You should be so proud of yourself. Thats alot of hard work, dedication, discipline and focus. Congratulations!

Body for Life Forum Message by tcstone (527 posts) at 06:19 AM:
AWESOME! That is GREAT!

Body for Life Forum Message by georgiawendy (151 posts) at 06:36 AM:
WOO HOO!! Congratulations!! Now go buy some of those ridiculously priced jeans we were discussing the other day:-)

Body for Life Forum Message by TreeStand (72 posts) at 07:51 AM:
congrats!! u gave me a smile with the ba-donk-a-donk happy dance.

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:07 AM:

SUper - Job!

Body for Life Forum Message by joninstpete (107 posts) at 08:22 AM:
AWESOME AWESOME AWESOME, is it time for the wrangler pictures?????

Body for Life Forum Message by goingforbuff (1412 posts) at 08:32 AM:
GREAT job!!!! Congrats, Dana! I'm doing the happy dance with you!!! Nancy

Body for Life Forum Message by Rushja (499 posts) at 08:33 AM:
Way to go Dana!!! I am so proud of you :D

Body for Life Forum Message by rbsamy (292 posts) at 08:45 AM:
Awesome Job Dana..Wooohoooo. Way to go!!

Body for Life Forum Message by LeoGirl (139 posts) at 09:13 AM:
Thats awesome Dana!! You Shake It Girrrrrl!!!!!!
*~Jen~*

Body for Life Forum Message by AngRoCamp (95 posts) at 09:22 AM:
Excellent!!! Keep up the good work :) ~Ang

Body for Life Forum Message by mojo (23 posts) at 09:37 AM:
Congrats! I'm soooooo excited for you! Malissa

Body for Life Forum Message by kana (320 posts) at 09:42 AM:
Girl.....AWESOME JOB!! I am so proud of you. 51 lbs since July 4th.....WEEEE HAWWWW!! Keep up your hard work....you are such a GREAT inspiration! Dede

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 10:10 AM:
CONGRATULATIONS DANA!!!!! You have done an Awesome job!!!! I am proud of you!!!! Way To Go Girl!!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by Forest Tech (39 posts) at 10:18 AM:
that is AMAZING progress!! KEEP IT UP!!! CONGRATULATIONS!

Body for Life Forum Message by BONUSNESS (33 posts) at 10:54 AM: Re: OMG!! I hit (and PASSED) the 50 lb mark!!!

Hard work is an understatement.  She had to bust her butt to get where she is.

Gotta hope that those who say they are not seeing change in nine weeks see her post.

Marty

Body for Life Forum Message by GET*HER*DONE (2610 posts) at 11:05 AM:
Fantastic, Congratulations!!! I'll be screaming next week I got another 1/2 lb to go to hit mine!! You GOT*HER*DONE!!! Linda

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 11:58 AM: Re: OMG!! I hit (and PASSED) the 50 lb mark!!!
Dana D said:
Im sooo excited that I HAD to share this with y'all! As of today.. I am OFFICIALLY 51 POUNDS lighter than I was on JULY 4th!! Even though Im completely pumped and excited, ...It almost seems unbeleivable to me, like my mind just DOESNT accept it yet. Does that make any sense? Even if my mind doesnt wanna accept it yet...Im STILL gunna do the HAPPY dance and shake my ba-donk-a-donk!! woooooo-hoooooooooooo!!!

Way to go Dana.....SO EXCITED for you!!

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 12:17 PM:
Fantastic! Congratulations!

Body for Life Forum Message by twinmom (274 posts) at 02:54 PM:
Awesome, Dana! Wow, now you can do anything you set your mind to girl. You should be so proud.

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 02:57 PM:
Great job Dana D. We're all very proud of you. You look awesome. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by Lala (598 posts) at 04:39 PM:
YAY YOU Dana!!!! That is SOOOOOO AWESOME! You're getting Gorgeouser ( is that a word ~LOL ;) by the minute!!! WAY TO GO GIRL! Pamela*

Body for Life Forum Message by Ngo Excuses (43 posts) at 07:37 PM:
CONGRATS! It's nice to see all your hard work pay off!! Denise

Body for Life Forum Message by RD (39 posts) at 08:02 PM:
good job Dana! I am still at 40lbs lost. Well actually this week it is 42. My weight has stayed the same for the last 2& 1/2 months. I know I am losing inches though. I lost 29 of my lbs before I started bfl. I was so thrilled to have lost 2lbs this last week. It is hard work to lose the weight. It was so easy to put on. You go girl. I am proud of you Dana!

Thread: Goal met 9 weeks early! (62 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Spec V Me (9 posts) at 12:17 PM: Goal met 9 weeks early!
Like I say in my profile, I have been "excercising" and doing a psuedo body for life challange for a couple of months. It was only 3 weeks ago that I started "the real thing". Well, this morning my abdomen measured in at 30" and that puts me in the 8% range, my ultimate goal. I figure it will be somewhat difficult to stay at exactly 8% so I picked the 6-8% range. At this rate though, it will be only another week or two until I get to 6%. What do i do then? I don't want to keep losing fat after that, do I eat more? I will continue to work out on the BFL plan regardless.

Body for Life Forum Message by Lala (598 posts) at 04:43 PM:
Good stuff! Meeting goals is Always exciting ! :) After that -- guess it depends on what YOU wanna do next! maybe some of the guys will step up & give you some ideas.. Take care Pamela*

Thread: Woohoo! (145 Views)

Body for Life Forum Message by Wrecky (40 posts) at 01:30 PM: Woohoo!
Well Week 1 is complete! I did it! Tomorrow is free day and Grey Cup here in Canada. So Ill indulge in a few treats, but won't go crazy. I am SO happy I am doing this. Thank you ALL for you're help this site is amazing and has certainly helped me find answers to questions AND motivation! You all ROCK!

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 01:31 PM:
ONLY 11 weeks to go....Keep going STRONG. You are doing GREAT!! Have fun tomorrow.

Body for Life Forum Message by TracyJeffries (1278 posts) at 01:32 PM:
well, 11 weeks to finish challenge one, but as we all know this is for LIFE!!!!

Body for Life Forum Message by SweetEmotion (986 posts) at 01:40 PM:
Good job Wrecky. You are a beautiful girl, you're going to look even more awesome. Lori

Body for Life Forum Message by havlow (95 posts) at 02:09 PM:
Keep up the good work!! Jeremy

Body for Life Forum Message by Rock-Chick (182 posts) at 03:46 PM:
Well done! Jules x

Body for Life Forum Message by Lala (598 posts) at 04:46 PM:
Glad you had a good week! Good for you! We'll be watching the Grey Cup here too! ;) .. Sad that our LIONS aren't in it ... but oh well any excuse to have friends over eh?! LOL ENJOY! You've earned it! take care Pamela*

Body for Life Forum Message by GET*HER*DONE (2610 posts) at 04:55 PM:
you get another free day!! I don't !! boo whoo!!! lol I was told to keep my cheat meals to turkey day only this week, so that's what I'm doing! I started my personal training with Gus and I have to listen to him, (at least for the next 12 weeks,lol) I figure Gussie baby knows best!!! So I'll listen to him and I'll GET*HER*DONE!!! Linda

Body for Life Forum Message by cookie1135 (1056 posts) at 06:19 PM:
Congrats on completing your first week!!! You're doing an awesome job!!! Hugs, Sylvia aka Cookie1135

Body for Life Forum Message by TaraC29 (25 posts) at 07:03 PM:
Congrats Wrecky! On to the next week!

Enjoy your cheat day!!!

Body for Life Forum Message by Darrell (113 posts) at 08:08 PM: